Between love and hate.
Between helping someone and hurting them.
Between waiting it out and being stuck.
Nobody ever tells you how to know what side of the line you are on. Say you have a friend or relative who is an alcoholic. And, they end up literally homeless and you take them in, and they start seeking treatment. That's supportive and kind-hearted. Right? That is NOT enabling. Right?
Well, what if they aren't really serious about getting that help. Oops, in a nanosecond you've turned straight from Mother Teresa into a big old enabler. And, a chorus of people will say "you should have known better". But how were you supposed to know that? And, when is it ever that simple?
Inside everyone's head is a mess of dreams and demons. Ambitions and insecurities. And, sometimes people need a helping hand to sort it out.
It's a question I've been thinking a lot about lately - if someone is stuck in a pattern of behaviour that clearly isn't working, then something needs to change. But maybe time is what's needed. Maybe it's a matter of waiting it out.
Maybe after this valley will be a glorious hill filled with sunshine. And daisies. And, even lollipops. Just like the sound of music. Only better.
Then again, maybe not.